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Offline max_cady

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So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« on: July 27, 2014, 08:43:16 am »
I just thought I'd like to ask the SEGAbits think tank for some advice on this matter. You see, one of my toughest goals for 2014 is moving out of my parents home, but it hasn't been easy.

When asked why, am I making excuses by saying that I still want to help my folks as much as possible and that the money isn't there yet in order for me to move on?

August and September are a good time to scout out locations since collegue students won't come back till late September, which means there are more apartements for rent now and readily available.

I've scouted some locations based on some basic needs: locations, proximity to stores, proximity to restaurants and my overall budget.

But it's the negotiation part to me that's a little hazy. What can I barter? In what terms can I get a tiny bit of reflief? Is it OK to discuss my income with the potential land lord? Just wanted to ask about it.

Offline Mengels7

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #1 on: July 27, 2014, 09:54:05 pm »
Well, I don't think there's much negotiation to be had. Focus on finding a place that you can definitely afford monthly and go for it! I'm not sure what you do for a living or whatnot but if money's an issue, look for an up-and-coming area of your city that may be pretty affordable. Here in Rochester we have lots of nice apartments downtown that are very affordable and filled with college students.

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #2 on: July 28, 2014, 12:51:21 am »
It's best to ask somebody in the same city for good locations and the like.

As for the prices in this day and age every apartment has a website with rates, there is minimum negotiation and it all really depends on your references and history.

Offline max_cady

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #3 on: July 28, 2014, 02:18:47 am »
I'm a content manager and I telecommute. Hence I work at home, most of the time so travel expenses aren't much of an issue at all. Every month or so I go to the office over at oPorto City (1hr by train) just to talk, trade opinions and so on.

Offline Aki-at

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #4 on: July 28, 2014, 06:33:24 am »
Barter with every trick in the book.

- "My income would be too stretched if the rent was..." it works from time to time and you can just add extra fluff like you help support your parents, business etc  or whatever if you don't want to give the image you're punching above your weight.
- Find any fault with the property, no matter how little.
- See if the landlord can give you any extra incentives with providing furniture.
- If you know the property has vacant for a while you could always raise this, furthermore depending on how quick you're planning on moving in can work in your favour too.

One thing to note since you have no previous landlords is they might look for some one who can guarantee your rent. In England the practice is to get a guarantor who owns a house that would be liable to pay the rent on your behalf if you default. Not something to barter with but to keep in mind.

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #5 on: July 28, 2014, 08:28:20 am »
All I have to say now is that I understand the need for privacy. I really do understand this. The need for sanity as well. I understand these needs. All I can say trying to move out for the sake of moving out is kinda of a bad idea.

If you have a stable job, and you are not able to get fired. It is a good thing. Apartments are for people who are desperate to leave home. I mean really desperate.

What I hate about work. If somebody sees you being too happy, they will be against you. People are jealous of people if you know what I mean. I know of two instances from a co-worker being polite to another co-worker, and that politeness got them fired. Another co-worker dresses with incorrect attire. Another person at work keyed somebodies car and they made that person the boss of everybody, because the person with the car is using the job to make payments, and they want him to leave to lose the car. Two employees found love and are open about their pregnancy together.
If you lose that income ( which ever source it is ) your bound to lose the apartment.

Right now with the current trend of law, I do not feel money is worth it. Unless I am getting something out of that piece of privacy. I am actually using the space.

I would rather buy a piece of property right now, and be a wild man on it.
« Last Edit: July 28, 2014, 08:36:23 am by RegalSin »

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #6 on: July 28, 2014, 08:12:34 pm »
In my experience, you don't have much to gain from negotiating; you may have a slight leeway to lower a monthly rate by just a little bit, but one thing you don't want to do (sorry aki, lol, gotta disagree with you here) is to imply that you'll have any sort of financial hardships or difficulty paying the rent whatsoever. Landlords don't want to hear that, they want to rent to someone who will be of as little trouble as possible.

They don't rent to someone who may not be able to pay his rent. Also, if you're too critical of the property, that might dissuade them too, since they don't want to rent to someone who they think might be calling them every day with issues. If it's between you and someone else, these factors may push them to that other person.

I'd say just look for places that are affordable to you, don't really plan on bartering. If in the process of negotiating you develop a good rapport with the landowner, then you can judge the situation and consider asking if a slightly lower rate is possible. Chances are that this can be done, but it won't be by much, so just look for places you can reasonably afford and consider any further lowering of the rate as a bonus.

But generally speaking, unless you're trying to rent in an undesirable area or you see that the property has been vacant for a long time, landlords don't usually have a lot of trouble renting these places out, so as a potential renter you don't have a ton of power. 

« Last Edit: July 28, 2014, 08:14:37 pm by Ben »

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #7 on: July 29, 2014, 07:46:59 am »
In my experience, you don't have much to gain from negotiating; you may have a slight leeway to lower a monthly rate by just a little bit, but one thing you don't want to do (sorry aki, lol, gotta disagree with you here) is to imply that you'll have any sort of financial hardships or difficulty paying the rent whatsoever. Landlords don't want to hear that, they want to rent to someone who will be of as little trouble as possible.

Speaking as both a landlord and an estate agent, discussing your budget with your landlord won't turn them off. You don't want to give off the image you have no money, no, but I think as a tenant you still have some leeway in getting some sort of discount and especially if Max can prove his pay which I'm sure he can. In real estate it's uncommon to give the asking price and I've dealt with plenty of people who try to get anything from £25 to £75 off and succeeded, only the really desperate gave what the landlord wanted. I'm not sure about Portuguese law but in the UK providing a guarantor is a pretty strong safety net for most landlords and only the ultra cautious wouldn't bother with a tenant that does have one.

Also Max make you sure you can judge the character of the landlord. I've found some landlords unwilling to fix the issues tenants have had with the property (From minor issues to providing furniture to major ones like their hot water cylinder leaking) and in the end the tenants are forced to withhold rent just to get a fix on the issues. One nightmare landlord I had to deal with was a landlord who provided 6 different chairs for the dining table and made a mattress out of duvet covers! Eventually the tenant withheld the rent because he was developing mold in the property and the landlord finally fixed some of the issues, but not all.

Though Max I'd add my experience is limited to the UK, I'm not sure what the conditions are like in Portugal at the moment, I'm not sure about your employment rate or if there is a housing crisis like there is one in the UK. These are all factors you'd have to take into consideration. During 2009 - 2011 in the UK, tenants were calling the shots as a record number of properties were empty and unemployment running rife, getting a tenant with a job was harder than prior years. If there is a housing crisis than you'd find getting a discount harder but it never actually hurts to try.

I'd finish by saying that just because you say you want £75 off... Or extra furniture doesn't mean you have to stick to your guns, if you really are desperate for the property you can at the very end of it just offer full asking price.
« Last Edit: July 29, 2014, 07:49:21 am by Aki-at »

Offline max_cady

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #8 on: July 29, 2014, 08:20:01 am »
There's nothing dramatically different from UK law. The only recent change in portuguese law is that rent used to be ajusted by decree, but that's changed.

Generally speaking most of the people who have landlords that I've spoken to demand at least 2 months in advance, other than that is roughly the same that you describe. Guarantors in Portugal, though are mostly for people buying a house or students that pay rent with their parent's money.

Culturally speaking, the Portuguese are encouraged to get a loan and buy a house which has been a debatable issue for years. Only recentely has the practice of renting become more common. And that's what I'm gonna live by for the forseable future.
« Last Edit: July 29, 2014, 08:33:29 am by max_cady »

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #9 on: July 29, 2014, 12:47:47 pm »
I would rather buy a piece of property right now, and be a wild man on it.
Fuck the apartment, you should do this.

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #10 on: July 29, 2014, 04:42:25 pm »
Fuck the apartment, you should do this.

I second this, buy a plot of land, fill it with fruit, veg, nut bushes/trees and live in the potting shed.
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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #11 on: July 29, 2014, 08:28:43 pm »
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Speaking as both a landlord and an estate agent, discussing your budget with your landlord won't turn them off. You don't want to give off the image you have no money, no, but I think as a tenant you still have some leeway in getting some sort of discount and especially if Max can prove his pay which I'm sure he can. In real estate it's uncommon to give the asking price and I've dealt with plenty of people who try to get anything from £25 to £75 off and succeeded, only the really desperate gave what the landlord wanted. I'm not sure about Portuguese law but in the UK providing a guarantor is a pretty strong safety net for most landlords and only the ultra cautious wouldn't bother with a tenant that does have one.

hmm, didn't realize Max was from Portugal. Changes things a little bit, as Europe may have a different culture to these types of these things.

In the US it's common to negotiate slight decreases in rent but typically realtors are the ones who are the best at these types of things. For your average person to negotiate, it's a fairly risky business, and though landlords price rentals with the expectation of bartering, the last thing most want to hear is "I may have some financial hardships." Also, if you're looking to move into a desirable place, it's likely that others are looking at the same place who may be willing to pay more.

Especially these days. But that's the US.

I still stand by my advice that Max look for places he can afford, and treat any reduction that he can get as a bonus, rather than looking for places that he can't afford and hoping that he can reduce it to his price range. But that's my advice. I agree that he should certainly try for a price reduction, but I'm not sure sure that he should discuss his financial hardships, as coming off as desperate (rather than coming across as savvy) typically (again, in my experience) hurts most negotiations for you rather than helps them.

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #12 on: July 30, 2014, 07:02:29 am »
Generally speaking most of the people who have landlords that I've spoken to demand at least 2 months in advance, other than that is roughly the same that you describe. Guarantors in Portugal, though are mostly for people buying a house or students that pay rent with their parent's money.

Similar to the UK, however we've got a deposit protection scheme here. We had a notorious problem in landlord's stealing the tenant's deposit (The second month's rent) and just claiming x and y was damaged when there was nothing wrong with the property! Now the deposit is held by the government and only returned to the tenant or landlord if they can prove they left the property in good conditions/if the tenant left it as a disaster zone.

The only reason I said you might need a guarantor is simply because you don't have previous landlord's reference, saying that if you have an adequate amount of income most are willing to overlook it. You still might get the few who would still want a guarantor simply because they're over cautious.

In the US it's common to negotiate slight decreases in rent but typically realtors are the ones who are the best at these types of things. For your average person to negotiate, it's a fairly risky business, and though landlords price rentals with the expectation of bartering, the last thing most want to hear is "I may have some financial hardships." Also, if you're looking to move into a desirable place, it's likely that others are looking at the same place who may be willing to pay more.

Especially these days. But that's the US.

What sort of references do you guys tend to do?

Here in the UK when a new tenant is set to move in, it's normal for the landlord to ask for previous landlord's reference, three month's bank statement, three month's payslips and passport/driver's ID. Certainly even if you say you might needed a slight decrease in the rent, if you prove your pay and show by your recent history you're more than able to financial manage yourself as well as a good tenant, most landlords would be fine giving a tenant a reduction in the rent. Especially if it's a tenant with a decent job.

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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #13 on: July 30, 2014, 03:55:48 pm »
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What sort of references do you guys tend to do?

Here in the UK when a new tenant is set to move in, it's normal for the landlord to ask for previous landlord's reference, three month's bank statement, three month's payslips and passport/driver's ID. Certainly even if you say you might needed a slight decrease in the rent, if you prove your pay and show by your recent history you're more than able to financial manage yourself as well as a good tenant, most landlords would be fine giving a tenant a reduction in the rent. Especially if it's a tenant with a decent job.

It's funny, I don't think (though I could be wrong....people in the US, feel free to back me up or disagree with me here) there's much emphasis placed on references here at all. I wish there was, as your system sounds like a much better one.

Here most of the weight comes from a person's credit history; that's usually the key. If the credit rating proves to be low, then usually one must find a co-signer with better credit to sign the lease with them. Otherwise the lease doesn't happen.

If you do find someone with good credit who's willing to co-sign, then typically you can get by with no problem. But yeah in the US farrrrrr more weight is placed on credit checks than things like prior landlord recommendations, references, etc.

Unfortunately. Basically, people don't care as much about your references here....if you have good credit and stable employment, you're usually fine. If you're new to having credit or you have bad credit, you'll usually need someone to co-sign who has better credit. As long as there's a co-signer with good credit putting his name on the paper to take part of the responsibility, then that's all that matters to them.
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Re: So You're Moving Out Of Your Parents Home...
« Reply #14 on: July 31, 2014, 03:23:11 am »
I have a feeling things are different in Europe that's why there's conflicting advice on haggling. In the US, haggling wouldn't work in most cases. My father's a real estate agent and owns a lot of rentals, he'd never come down on the rent and neither would most of his colleagues. The property demand is such that it's not really necessary to negotiate in most of the US I think.

However if Portugal is like the US; it's a stupidly good time to buy. Where I live it's actually cheaper to just get a mortgage and start working on buying a place vs. rent.