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Off Topic => Everything Else => Topic started by: CrazyT on March 03, 2011, 06:48:44 pm
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I thought this would make an interesting topic. I've been a member here for a while and i thought it would be nice to share some more personal stuff with each other. I am kinda curious to see how everyone handles his stuff. But if there are experts among you, it'd be nice to help each other as well :D. Do you like somebody? Do you need tips? Do you have a girlfriend? Share your stories :lol:
Well anyway, i'll start. I haven't been really that active lately, especially since i've began being serious about my future. Basically school, work and a little bit of free time.
Though Last week there was this amazing chick at work. The funny thing is that she quickly caught my interest with just a quick glare. I wouldn't say that it was "love at first site" but it's sorta close. I had to make my move. I couldn't keep keep my calm so doing nothing wasn't an option. Well.. when the break started, I talked to her and damn.... got no words. It wasn't just the looks but she was very mature and intelligent. Problem however is that she's older, which isn't really a problem when you think about it for a moment. But some women prefer older men so I still gotta see how that's gonna turn out.
Fucked up situation because no matter what, it could still just be that she sees me as a colleague.
My next move is trying to fix a way that I can contact her more frequently instead of once/twice a week when we both work at the same time. I think msn would be a better idea. Lol so that's what i'm dealing with :P You'll hear more when I meet her again. I'm gonna take it easy though, experience has taught me that girls don't like the "insisting" types..
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Guess this isn't really an interesting subject around here :lol:
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here you go
http://http://www.segabits.com/forums/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=78
21 pages worth of relationship stuff.
I have a very awkward relationship history. But right now I'm just chillin' with this amazing chick. She's a bro, she's hot.
She left her boyfriend to be with me. But we aren't taking anything serious right now, I don't want to and she doesn't got time (two jobs + college). But we like hangin out together and such. My parents hate her, her parents don't know about me.
Just having fun and not thinking about it much. I don't want a serious relationship until at least 4th year at university.
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I've been with my wife since 1995. We've been married since 2001. It's too long of a story to tell. Plus it makes me feel old hearing about you 20-year olds (or thereabouts).
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@George, That kinda sucks man
@Crackdude, I think you're handling it great. It's best when things are mutual but taking it easy and giving it time is really a good choice. I've had good friendships turn into relationships myself too, but things just seem to change when they do weirdly enough.
@emmett, Yeah i'm 20. I must sound really corny :lol: How did you get to know your wife? Was it mutual or did you have to catch her attention?
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Though Last week there was this amazing chick at work. The funny thing is that she quickly caught my interest with just a quick glare. I wouldn't say that it was "love at first site" but it's sorta close. I had to make my move. I couldn't keep keep my calm so doing nothing wasn't an option. Well.. when the break started, I talked to her and damn.... got no words. It wasn't just the looks but she was very mature and intelligent. Problem however is that she's older, which isn't really a problem when you think about it for a moment. But some women prefer older men so I still gotta see how that's gonna turn out.
Some straight up advice just in case you plan the whole being friends approach seen on tv most prominently on Friends :S and these days in Big Bang Theory. It is bull shit.
Once you've established a rapport it is best to make your intentions clear, most girls with a sound mind know your in to them from the get go. So all you have to be is assertive and speak your mind. If your drawing a blank it may be because you are in an approach/avoid conflict.
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Let's see how personal we get here.
This is what happened with the last girl I asked out.
Starting from the beginning:
I registered for GRE classes at Princeton Review, we were a small class of about 8 people.
So there was this girl whose name literally translated to "The Queen" - in English.
GRE classes were at the weekend, first week I didn't do anything other than make the prerequisite small talk with all my class mates.
Next week I learned she was from Washington and had just returned a few weeks ago after several years and was trying to reconnect with the city. I also learned that 2 other dudes are in too her... and well I like a hot commodity or a girl in demand if you will. So the next day I asked her out after class in a simple way:
"Maybe we should go out some time?" I said.
"Sure" She said.
"Awesome, give me your number and we'll make a scene"
To Be Continued if any one wants to know what happened next.
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Do not worry about George, he is a lady killer. Maybe literally.
I am not. I am extremely shy and have no idea how to react around girls that interest me, so all of the girlfriends I have had in the past came to me.
The last breakup was the hardest on me yet, but I made it out okay. I hate how I became so close with her whole family and now I have to just drop knowing them at all or something. I am not sure how that is supposed to go.
You would think that most of mine have been lost through me doing weird shit, but that is not the case yet, most of them have been pretty crazy, but not really in the sexy way, more of the "I'm gunna stab you in the eye", which is kind of sexy. [spoiler:dsngdz3x]Especially for George.[/spoiler:dsngdz3x]
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Some straight up advice just in case you plan the whole being friends approach seen on tv most prominently on Friends :S and these days in Big Bang Theory. It is bull shit.
Once you've established a rapport it is best to make your intentions clear, most girls with a sound mind know your in to them from the get go. So all you have to be is assertive and speak your mind. If your drawing a blank it may be because you are in an approach/avoid conflict.
Wow you're really good at this. Aproach avoid conflict, that's exactly what I was doing, unconsiously.
I saw her yesteday again and I got some updates. After the last occation (the case that I wrote in my first post) I decided to take it easier. I mean not all girls behave this way, but in the past making it too prominent that I like a girl mostly resulted in arrogant attitudes. Basically they didn't have to put any effort.
So what happened yesterday? The whole friendship bullshit wasn't the plan. I was just acting myself, as if I was getting to know an ordinary girl. So aproach/avoid didn't play a role at all now since it was how i'd naturally behave. As being myself, I aproached her pretty often, not showing more interest than just the way i'd talk to any other person. And you know what resulted in doing so? She was showing alot of interest. Conversation wouldn't stop because she kept talking, asking me personal questions. It wouldn't be weird to think that she's maybe interested in me. I do have a feeling she does however, because we do have a lot of things in common. Sometimes she would be saying things, making jokes where i'd be like, that's really something that I would do/say. Maybe she sees the same in me. I don't know.
Updates will be coming. So tell me expert, did I handle that right?
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It touches upon everything: dating, health issues, fashion trends, what to do and not do in the workplace and so forth.
I need to bookmark this website as quickly as possible.
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To Be Continued if any one wants to know what happened next.
I'm always in for an interesting story ;)
The way I met the girl I'm "with" now was pretty basic.
Upfront approach. I looked at her and she looked back, so I started talking to her. Where she from, etc.
It was at the first day of college, so we had to go to several shacks to sign up for various college-related crap-that-makes-us-spend-money.
So I accompanied her.
Later in the day I learned that she had a boyfriend when she casually mentioned it.
We became friends, but we were with eachother every single day. She was with her boyfriend once a week.
So yeah, she fell for me. Decided she couldn't be with her boyfriend like this.
Though I don't want a relationship per say, she enjoys spending time with me, and so do I enjoy being with her.
But it was all natural stuff. When I learned she had a boyfriend I cut on my game. I never had any intentions of "stealing her" or becoming friends and later progress to more than that.
Sometimes things just happen.
Not thinking too much about it and letting things flow naturally is the best way to eventually find someone you care about. this is my take.
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Wow you're really good at this. Aproach avoid conflict, that's exactly what I was doing, unconsiously.
lol.
I saw her yesteday again and I got some updates. After the last occation (the case that I wrote in my first post) I decided to take it easier. I mean not all girls behave this way, but in the past making it too prominent that I like a girl mostly resulted in arrogant attitudes. Basically they didn't have to put any effort.
So what happened yesterday? The whole friendship bullshit wasn't the plan. I was just acting myself, as if I was getting to know an ordinary girl. So aproach/avoid didn't play a role at all now since it was how i'd naturally behave. As being myself, I aproached her pretty often, not showing more interest than just the way i'd talk to any other person. And you know what resulted in doing so? She was showing alot of interest. Conversation wouldn't stop because she kept talking, asking me personal questions. It wouldn't be weird to think that she's maybe interested in me. I do have a feeling she does however, because we do have a lot of things in common. Sometimes she would be saying things, making jokes where i'd be like, that's really something that I would do/say. Maybe she sees the same in me. I don't know.
Updates will be coming. So tell me expert, did I handle that right?
I don't have sufficient information to pass out a ruling.
If it feels good and your not over thinking and are relaxed then your probably in the right direction.
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Though I don't want a relationship per say, she enjoys spending time with me, and so do I enjoy being with her.
Not thinking too much about it and letting things flow naturally is the best way to eventually find someone you care about. this is my take.
So what do you want out of this "non relationship" relationship.
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So what do you want out of this "non relationship" relationship.
That's exactly what I'm figuring out at this point.
We are reaching a inevitable break-point.
Today I told her I was going to think about what I want.
She wants a committed relationship. I don't.
I feel like I'm in a "take it or leave it" situation, though she says it's not all that bothering that we aren't committed if I keep being with her (whatever she means with that).
I feel great with her, yet I feel awful in relationships. Maybe it's trauma or something.
I'll meditate on this during this weekend.
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Yeah man, whatever your past issues are you gotta deal with them or are you being a girl who likes to keep her options open for something better down the line?
Part of being a man is stepping up to monogamy, just do it whole heartedly. If you think your chemistry matches go for it otherwise stop wasting her time.
Hope i'm not being to harsh.
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Yeah man, whatever your past issues are you gotta deal with them or are you being a girl who likes to keep her options open for something better down the line?
Part of being a man is stepping up to monogamy, just do it whole heartedly. If you think your chemistry matches go for it otherwise stop wasting her time.
Hope i'm not being to harsh.
Not at all!
I appreciate the advice and will take it into consideration :)
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I've been with my girlfriend since aprox 2006, I keep her handcuffed to the bed with a packet of oreos for nourishment.
She mostly cries at night... Mostly.
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:/ Guys just see me as a friend....
... Apparently I have to much in common with most of them
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Having something common is what attracts people, since I've downplayed my gaming hours I have upgraded my girling hours.
Cause we both have less gaming in common.
Not the best example but common is good, could it be possible your sending to many platonic vibes? I can do that a lot, but mainly when i'm not intrested at all.
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... No, I think its one of those they just don't see me that way kinda things.
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Man I could totally go psychologist on you, lol.
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Oh boy.... that could be scary :p
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Oh boy.... that could be scary :p
No more scary than cube's usual bizarre ramblings I'm sure.
Anyway, I've had incredibly bad luck with relationships, or maybe I'm just un-attractive. The last girl I had a thing for inspired me to lose 20 kgs (about 44 lbs) and get this great job that I have now, which is nice. She's a good friend that I still see from time to time as well.
Apart from that, I'm still waiting for my next romantic misadventure. I wonder if my new glasses will be a help or a hindrance, only time will tell!
On a semi-related note; Internet Dating, what are people's thoughts?
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They do tend to be awkward sometimes. I figured it's because it's sorta forced instead of spontaneous if you get what I mean. My experience with them have been mostly weird, and a few times pretty good.
I'd say go for it, in general there's nothing weird about internet dating in this time of day. As long you know what you're doing
(I had a week off last week so no updates about the girl ofrom my work.:$)
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Oh boy.... that could be scary :p
No more scary than cube's usual bizarre ramblings I'm sure.
I can only think of 2 things that you may find bizarre.
1) Sonic 06: Which I'll say again is a terrible game, but feels better in comparison to many games released after it. Why is that bizarre?
2) Bayonetta is an example of objectification.
So yeah you find those 2 things bizarre then it would be bizarre, now I'm going to psychoanalyze your post.
Anyway, I've had incredibly bad luck with relationships, or maybe I'm just un-attractive. The last girl I had a thing for inspired me to lose 20 kgs (about 44 lbs) and get this great job that I have now, which is nice. She's a good friend that I still see from time to time as well.
I've seen your pictures and there doesn't seem to be anything un-attractive. Your also quite capable of making changes as evident by your claims of losing 20kgs. The rest doesn't have sufficient detail for a proper analysis of your unattractiveness.
Apart from that, I'm still waiting for my next romantic misadventure. I wonder if my new glasses will be a help or a hindrance, only time will tell!
On a semi-related note; Internet Dating, what are people's thoughts?
While you could be joking, calling them misadventures from the start is just putting out a negative aura.
Internet Dating for shy, reserved, under confident, sex addicts or people with extremely hectic life styles.
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I wouldn't dig too deep into what I was saying, but thanks anyway cube (although I don't really like the idea of 'Psycho-analysing' my posts :P )(hope I didn't offend you with the thing about your bizarre rants btw). I was mostly joking about the unattractive comment, and 'romantic misadventure' was meant to sound more fun/exciting than negative.
As for internet dating, I've never tried it and don't really intend to in the forseeable future, but I've known some people who were actually well-adjusted and good looking who have tried it or considered trying it.
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None of my friends like me reading into their behavioral patterns, therefore I try to limit my psychopowers to the Clinic. But for you I thought a psychoanalysis could be fun.
Since you were being funny and psychologists never take being funny on face validity :P.
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What does a psychoanalysis of me sound like? You should totally open a clinic here in the forums lol
And as for internet dating.. It may be more time-consuming (if you're online all day working for example, there's a high chance you'll procrastinate your work). Internet sex is awkward and followed my half an hour of "why did I do this again?"
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^ I wasn't planning on ever doing 'internet sex', but thanks for the input!
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^ I wasn't planning on ever doing 'internet sex', but thanks for the input!
...Thats what she said.
I have friends that met online and now have kids, it kind of scares me... mind you, the guy she met does smell like a foot.
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So the next day I asked her out after class in a simple way:
"Maybe we should go out some time?" I said.
"Sure" She said.
"Awesome, give me your number and we'll make a scene"
To Be Continued if any one wants to know what happened next.
Update: Cube called and Dominos Pizza picked up.
[spoiler:1j6s77h2]He got a 12 inch, all meat BBQ base.[/spoiler:1j6s77h2]
:/ Guys just see me as a friend.... Apparently I have to much in common with most of them
I felt the penis was a little to much, yes.
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I've been dating the same girl for.... 4 years. Might break it off, not sure.
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I've been dating the same girl for.... 4 years. Might break it off, not sure.
Can you elaborate on why!? (you might break it off)
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I've been dating the same girl for.... 4 years. Might break it off, not sure.
Can you elaborate on why!? (you might break it off)
I feel she is starting to drink too much for my tastes, and she's been somewhat inconsiderate. It's a definite time of uncertainty. I won't say it's over, because it isn't, but I'd say there is a solid chance that it will end now more than ever before.
Oh, and her new friends are fucking bitchy. Hate em.
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Sounds like a good enough reason.
Oh, and her new friends are fucking bitchy. Hate em.
Urh... The friends of girlfriends are almost always awful.
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Sounds like a good enough reason.
Oh, and her new friends are fucking bitchy. Hate em.
Urh... The friends of girlfriends are almost always awful.
The old ones were fine, intelligent, had futures. Kind. All that jazz.
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Broke it off, been about a week or so? Not sure. Whatever. Had my first date with another girl on Saturday, we spent five hours together walking by the river, then we went out tonight (Monday) and walked, ate dinner, and went to see Woody Allen's Midnight in Paris. She really liked it and she is beautiful, and kind, and she doesn't party.
I don't feel so bad about my four year relationship ending, it's odd. I guess I just didn't wanna be there anymore for a long while, and had been prepared for this.
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Oh i forgot about this thread.
Seeing it bumped I guess I could give an update.
A lot of things have happened since then (it's almost 3/4 months ago since this thread 0_0). We get along real well now, I had managed to get her msn and we have been speaking alot. Last month however when we started talking about relationships at work, to my surprise she was allready taken. I think my reaction gave a pretty solid indication to what I thought of it and said, oh wow I didn't expect that. She then asked me, why? No nothing I replied with a smirk in my face. But the things that I found noticable was that she laughed at my reaction, not laughing out kind of reaction but more like a happy kind of laugh.
There was a minute where I thought that she was probably making this up deliberatly to see my reaction, but I didn't want to go on the road of wishful thinking. I decided to just accept it. A little minute after I was done doing my stuff I continued asking about him and her. She answered with a basic answere whereto I replied that he was a very lucky guy.
I don't want to ruin what she has but i'm having a really hard time now. Everytime we speak theres just so much chemistry between us. We have so much in common. A lot of similar expressions, we think alike about alot of things and our humor is on the same level too, as if we grew up together. I know that she probably notices as well because I certainly do with the way she acts and speaks.
She has been giving me alot of attention ever since I've giving her less, and it's giving me a hard time at the moment because it makes me like her more and more. I just don't know what to do with her being in a relationship and all that. I mean chances are that she maybe likes me more. I just don't know if I should keep making moves on her, tell her how I feel about her despite that she's in a relationship.
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Whatever happens, I'm hoping for the best for you crazytails. :)