Relationship Thread

[crackdude]

Thanks bro.


I do not take these thing lightly. It troubles me that she might be thinking about screwing up my relationship with N

[tarpmortar]

Just remember man, she starts to bitch that sending you that text is a bad idea at the end of the message. Just remember, if she truly thought it was a bad idea, why'd she send it? Because she's attempting to pull some weak ass reverse-psychology bullshit on you, you aren't stupid, you see through that.

[crackdude]

This is proper fucked up. Does she think I'm falling for this?
I think I better not talk to her. I won't let her mess things up

[Barry the Nomad]

Not to much for me to add here. Still married, no changes, no complaints. 

[crackdude]

You've been married for like 2 years now?
Do you feel much difference from when you were just dating?

[Barry the Nomad]

Only been married since last October, so 9 months. I guess you could say we dated for a year before moving in together. Once you're moved in, saying you're dating is odd, since you're together all the time and share a place. So boyfriend/girlfriend living together for three years, then got engaged and then married.

So I guess it doesn't feel that different, seeing as our living situation married is the same as it was for the three previous years living together in sin.

The real changes are that things are far more relaxed. I mean, no expectations in terms of proposing and no wedding planning since it has all already happened. Also, there are the little government perks and the status symbol of having a ring. But yeah, not terribly different.

[SOUP]

@crackdude:
I ran into a similar situation in the past. Definitely stay away, and stick with N.

[crackdude]

@Barry:
Sorry, I totally thought it had been October 2010.
Also, that sounds nice. I'm 20, don't wanna rush things, but living with someone is an idea that appeals to me..


@Soup:
Thanks man..
I see that this is a quite common situation? I had no idea..

[SOUP]

No problem.
It's probably more common than it should be.
Good memories tend to be the ones that stick with people after long stretches of time. So some people run across something that reminds them of the way they imagine things were, and will try to get that back. The big thing to remember is that things are never the same after a full on breakup, and those idealized memories aren't reality anymore.

You're much better off in the happy relationship you're in.