Keep in mind that point about appealing to a wide audience, though, and you'll understand that androgynous leading males are popular for good reason. A male character with some feminine traits are seen as being youthful and attractive, and lots of female players go gaga over them. But the feminine aspect isn't overblown to the point that it'd disgust male players, either; overall, I'd say that most straight male players are perfectly fine with having a main character who is seen as attractive, but isn't a complete girly boy. The absolute girly boy is typically going to be someone other than the main character. Then, they also have the stronger and more masculine men in the games to appeal to guys and to girls who prefer males to be tall, dark, and handsome.
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