It's not about how you look at the woman perse. It's about how you aproach her. Here in holland everything has become really mixed. Muslims are everywhere so the chances of getting in touch with these kinds of girls/women is big around here. I just noticed myself when speaking with these kind of girls brings no other intentions with it.
You're giving a good example there about your girlfriend. Hijab doesn't only describe the scarf, but also the figure/curves. It's not like when a woman wairs a scarf she's automatically less sexualy attractive when she still wears tight clothes. I do gotta say that the latter seems to have a bigger effect on me. Hijab is covering both curves and hair i've learned. The best thing of all, or so a friend has told me, when you do find a certain girl attractive that's dressed that way, it's harder to think of perverted things. Maybe i'm just mesed up :lol: but I am guilty of doing that myself sometimes. The attractness comes just from the face and character.
It just sorta makes sense to me, while i'm not a mulsim myself. But I like looking at women in that manner instead of the whole "let's see if you can get that girl" attitude among friends, which is how men are usually, i'm sure your familar with that kind of attitude towards women. I respect their perspective on how their religion encourages a woman to be seen as more than just an object of lust and how the women aknowledge the "weakness" of men.
There is a good chance that being covered by Hijab or Berqua will stop men looking at woman in a sexual way... Then again so would incasing her in a block of granite. Both seem like extreme measures to stop such a harmless thing...
Frankly when I talk to woman dressed 'normally' for my society I have no 'wondering thoughts' I can function quite normally.
However I doubt I am the only guy that, when talking to a woman dressed from head to toe in a berqua I'm putting quite a lot of thought into
'I wonder what she looks like under this'... In fact I bet it is FAR more distracting... Not even in a sexual way I'm just wondering at this point, what she looks like. If you hide something, people WANT to see it... That is human nature.
But this isn't really the point I was making... I'm not out to stop people wearing these things, even if I don't agree with the concept.
Where you come from and where I come from (Europe) there is nothing in society to say HEY YOU HAVE TO WEAR THAT HEAD SCARF!
So yeah I guess it could seem like an alright idea, woman have the choice to wear it or not. (Give or take a strict parent.) They are free to wear it if they choose. Shit, if I want to wear one I will and no one will stop me... I might get some funny looks but nothing else.
In some of these countries where this originates there ISN'T a choice, society chooses, the man chooses... The woman are expected to be a certain way and if they do not act this way, wear that, perform this duty they are treated poorly. THAT is where it becomes sexist.
You know what, Woman LIKE to be attractive, they LIKE to be looked at and they LIKE to be sexy... Even these Muslim woman. Even those Muslim girls that can only show their eyes in public because society has forced it upon them LOOK at their eyes... They have pimped those eyes to the max, mascara, make up, all sorts to get some kind of attraction going.
It's HUMAN nature to be attracted to the opposite sex and it's human nature to want to attract the opposite sex, hell it's the nature of all creatures... If a 18 year old Muslim girl wants to show the world she’s a hot piece of arse I fully support it and I don't think it should be the right of any repressed douche bag bloke to stop her.